Why do we fall in love with this one but not that? Why Bill instead of Ray? Researcher John Money believes that everyone has something he calls a “love map”.
Long before you fall in love with someone, you have developed a map which shows with whom you will fall in love.
When children meet friends, family members and other people, they will collect certain things that they like in these people. Gradually their memories begin to form an ideal lover in their mind.
As they grow up, their love map becomes clearer. So long before you love someone, you already know some things about him. Then you will meet someone that has something similar to your ideal, and you fall in love with him.
Actually this one is far different from your ideal. However you can not see these differences. That’s why a famous saying goes: “Love is blind”.